Resources for Parents
You know, Just Say No sounds good in theory. But it implies that saying no is as easy as saying yes. It’s just not. In practice, saying no begs an explanation and saying yes doesn’t. Just Saying No makes for an awkward moment, which makes it an unhelpful suggestion to teens (and people pleasers) who often care about avoiding awkwardness even more than they care about their own well-being. – Read more at: http://momastery.com/blog/2015/09/24/one-conversation/#sthash.wH0vaarP.dpuf
Registration deadline is end of day, Monday, February 23rd. We need a minimum of 15 people to run the class.
Who should attend:
This workshop is for all parents. The techniques discussed will benefit children of all ages.
LEAD and SpeakUp! are hosting this class to provide effective, concrete techniques for families with children and adolescents who need help creating environments of mutual respect and cooperation with effective rules, responsibilities and consequences.
Skills that will be taught include: ways for kids to calm themselves during crises, how to effectively disengage without making things worse, effective consequences that will make real changes, and how to get kids to do chores and clean their rooms with little effort on the parents part.
If you are a parent who feels like you are frequently walking on eggshells or that you provoke rude and disrespectful responses from children; this class is for you. Come learn what you can do to establish a healthy, respectful, cooperative and fun relationship with your child/children.
Register at www.leadingefforts.org/kling
Kathy Radigan 7/22/2014 as published in the Huffington Post
As hard as it is for me to believe this, I’m the mother of a teenager. In fact, Tom will be entering 10th grade this September.
The years have gone so fast that I really feel as if one day I was taking pictures of him graduating from our Mommy and Me class, the next day I couldn’t believe he was in the fourth grade, and then bang, he was in high school.
Playdates at friends’ houses have been replaced by going out for sushi, a movie, or walking around town with his buddies. Alone. No adults watching over them.
Instead of chatting with his friends’ parents over coffee at kitchen tables, we wave to them out of car windows.
The times they are a-changin’.
Whenever my family or friends ask about Tom and marvel at the fact that he is now a teenager, the subject of alcohol and drugs always seems to come up. As in, how will I handle it when he comes home drunk for the first time? Or what will I do if I find out that he’s been using drugs?
I always find the questions a bit baffling, because it’s just assumed that Tom will try these things. In fact, the common answer I get from most of my friends and family is that of course he will.
Truth be told, I find this mindset maddening. And if I were a kid today, I would find it really confusing.
From the time Tom was in kindergarten, he has been learning in school that drinking and drugs are dangerous choices. He has read books and been shown movies about how alcohol can affect your judgment and make it easier to engage in other risky behaviors like unprotected sex or driving under the influence.
In eighth grade, his health teacher made the whole class write letters addressed to themselves making the promise that they wouldn’t smoke, drink or have unprotected sex in high school.
Yet so many parents take it as a foregone conclusion that their kids will engage in any manner of risky behavior.
I’ve been accused of living in “La La Land” if I think otherwise. “Kids will be kids,” some say. Others will chime in with, “after all, we did it.”
Really? Are these the criteria we are going to base our parenting on?
I get it. My son is growing up, and he’s going to have to make choices for himself.
I want him to spread his wings and discover who he is. And as much as some people think I’m living under a rock, I do know that he is going to make mistakes along the way.
But, I want him to know where I stand on engaging in behaviors that are at best risky and at worst illegal or life-threatening.
I never want my son to say that I wasn’t clear about my feelings — so I’m writing them out here, for all to see.
The legal drinking age in this country is 21. Please know that dad and I will never allow you to have alcohol in our house or in our presence until you reach that age. Please also know that no good has ever come from a group of teenagers drinking. It’s a recipe for all kinds of disasters.
If you should choose to drink, you’ll not only be breaking the rules of our house, you’ll be breaking the law.
If you get stopped for driving under the influence, or the police get called to a party where you have been drinking, you may be in a position where we can’t protect you.
Always call me and your dad. ALWAYS. No matter what you have done.
Don’t ever follow up a bad choice with one that’s worse just because you’re afraid of disappointing us or making us angry.
Will we be happy? Of course not. But we would much rather get you and any friend who wants to come with you home safely, than get a call saying you are NEVER coming home.
Let me be clear that the fact that we love you and will stand by you does not in any way mean we will stand by while you do things that you know aren’t good for you.
There are those who will tell you that your parents are being unreasonable and totally unrealistic. Some may tell you that you are a teenager and it’s a rite of passage to get drunk. They may even regale you with stories of their own youthful mistakes.
Listen to your own heart and trust your gut. Also know there is nothing cool about waking up in your own vomit, or having a DUI before you are 18.
Your father and I are so proud of the man you are becoming. We love you so much that we don’t care if you hate us. That’s our gift to you — we are your parents, not your friends.
To read this article from its source use this link: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/kathy-radigan/an-open-letter-to-my-teenage-son-about-drinking_b_5609429.html?utm_hp_ref=tw#
Thinking about colleges?
You’re checking out academic programs…
You probably already know the mascot…
Do you know about the campus drinking environment?
Thursday, April 3, 2014
12 Noon – 1:30 p.m.
Special Guest Speaker:
Sean Welsh, Assistant Director of Counseling Services and Wellness Coordinator
Lake Forest College
Sean will talk about best practices regarding deterring/reducing underage drinking on college campuses. Opportunity for Q&A at end of presentation.
Lunch is provided!
All meetings are held at:
Lake Forest High School West Campus
300 South Waukegan Road, Seminar Room B
Lake Forest, IL
RSVP to [email protected]
An alarming number of teens are drinking alcohol. Parents have a big impact on whether or not their kids drink. Your kids really do hear you. For tips on how—and when—to start the conversation about alcohol or other substances, click on the image below.
Lake County State’s Attorney Mike Nerheim headlines this community panel that will cover heroin education and local solutions on Wednesday, Feb 26 from 7:00 – 8:30 p.m. at Gorton Community Center.
Please join LEAD in welcoming Lake County State’s Attorney Mike Nerheim, who will speak about the increased heroin situation in Lake County and what we can do as a community to create solutions. Mr. Nerheim will present a general overview of heroin use in Lake County and then attendees will have the opportunity to ask questions of the community panel.
The community panel will consist of a Mike Nerheim, Cliff Rice (ER physician and community member), Heather Hale (Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor), a recovering young person and a member of the Lake Forest Police Department.
The presentation will be held on Feb 26, 2014 from 7 pm -8:30 pm at Gorton Community Center. There is no preregistration and walk-ins are welcome. Please see the LEAD website (www.leadingefforts.org) or call 847-295-9075 for more information.
The annual Parents, Teens and the Law program took place on Wednesday, November 13th, 2013 at the Lake Forest High School Auditorium. The program is meant to help parents and teens navigate through the challenges high school years making healthy choices and avoiding involvement with alcohol, marijuana, and other drugs. It is sponsored by Speak UP!, LEAD and LFHS APT.
The panelists this year were:
- the honorable Judge Chris Stride
- A local parent who shared her personal perspective of how her family was impacted by a teen party
- Speakers from Speak UP!, LFHS Dean’s Office, Athletic Office and Law Enforcement
Below is a link to a presentation done at Parents, Teens and the Law by Khris Condon, Program Coordinator Speak UP! Prevention Coalition and Deborahanne Reimer, Student Assistance Program Coordinator at LFHS.