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Kathy Radigan 7/22/2014 as published in the Huffington Post
As hard as it is for me to believe this, I’m the mother of a teenager. In fact, Tom will be entering 10th grade this September.
The years have gone so fast that I really feel as if one day I was taking pictures of him graduating from our Mommy and Me class, the next day I couldn’t believe he was in the fourth grade, and then bang, he was in high school.
Playdates at friends’ houses have been replaced by going out for sushi, a movie, or walking around town with his buddies. Alone. No adults watching over them.
Instead of chatting with his friends’ parents over coffee at kitchen tables, we wave to them out of car windows.
The times they are a-changin’.
Whenever my family or friends ask about Tom and marvel at the fact that he is now a teenager, the subject of alcohol and drugs always seems to come up. As in, how will I handle it when he comes home drunk for the first time? Or what will I do if I find out that he’s been using drugs?
I always find the questions a bit baffling, because it’s just assumed that Tom will try these things. In fact, the common answer I get from most of my friends and family is that of course he will.
Truth be told, I find this mindset maddening. And if I were a kid today, I would find it really confusing.
From the time Tom was in kindergarten, he has been learning in school that drinking and drugs are dangerous choices. He has read books and been shown movies about how alcohol can affect your judgment and make it easier to engage in other risky behaviors like unprotected sex or driving under the influence.
In eighth grade, his health teacher made the whole class write letters addressed to themselves making the promise that they wouldn’t smoke, drink or have unprotected sex in high school.
Yet so many parents take it as a foregone conclusion that their kids will engage in any manner of risky behavior.
I’ve been accused of living in “La La Land” if I think otherwise. “Kids will be kids,” some say. Others will chime in with, “after all, we did it.”
Really? Are these the criteria we are going to base our parenting on?
I get it. My son is growing up, and he’s going to have to make choices for himself.
I want him to spread his wings and discover who he is. And as much as some people think I’m living under a rock, I do know that he is going to make mistakes along the way.
But, I want him to know where I stand on engaging in behaviors that are at best risky and at worst illegal or life-threatening.
I never want my son to say that I wasn’t clear about my feelings — so I’m writing them out here, for all to see.
The legal drinking age in this country is 21. Please know that dad and I will never allow you to have alcohol in our house or in our presence until you reach that age. Please also know that no good has ever come from a group of teenagers drinking. It’s a recipe for all kinds of disasters.
If you should choose to drink, you’ll not only be breaking the rules of our house, you’ll be breaking the law.
If you get stopped for driving under the influence, or the police get called to a party where you have been drinking, you may be in a position where we can’t protect you.
Always call me and your dad. ALWAYS. No matter what you have done.
Don’t ever follow up a bad choice with one that’s worse just because you’re afraid of disappointing us or making us angry.
Will we be happy? Of course not. But we would much rather get you and any friend who wants to come with you home safely, than get a call saying you are NEVER coming home.
Let me be clear that the fact that we love you and will stand by you does not in any way mean we will stand by while you do things that you know aren’t good for you.
There are those who will tell you that your parents are being unreasonable and totally unrealistic. Some may tell you that you are a teenager and it’s a rite of passage to get drunk. They may even regale you with stories of their own youthful mistakes.
Listen to your own heart and trust your gut. Also know there is nothing cool about waking up in your own vomit, or having a DUI before you are 18.
Your father and I are so proud of the man you are becoming. We love you so much that we don’t care if you hate us. That’s our gift to you — we are your parents, not your friends.
To read this article from its source use this link: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/kathy-radigan/an-open-letter-to-my-teenage-son-about-drinking_b_5609429.html?utm_hp_ref=tw#
A simple reminder from LEAD and SpeakUP! Please do not provide alcohol t0 teens. Help keep our young people safe during celebrations this week.
If you are parent or community member concerned about underage drinking, marijuana and/or other drug abuse by teenagers in our community, we need your help. You can help our community reduce underage drinking.
Attend our coalition meeting to learn more. Below is the agenda for this month’s meeting.
The Illinois Senate and House have passed legislation to expand penalties for adults allowing underage drinking. The bill is on its way to Governor Quinn for his signature.
Thursday, May 8 th
Noon – 1:30 PM
West Campus Admin Building, Seminar B
Coalition Summer Activities
The City of Lake Forest and the State of Illinois have passed Social Host Ordinances and Laws to keep youth and young adults safe. Below is a summary of social host to help adults in the community understand their responsibilities and liability.
Individuals can be arrested and face charges for simply allowing or permitting individuals under the age of 21 to drink alcohol at their residence or on their property.
Penalties and Fines
A guilty person is responsible for reimbursing the city for any response costs incurred plus a fine of up to $2,500.
Additional State of Illinois SHO Law Fines and Penalties
Under Illinois law any Social Host violation that results in bodily harm or death results in a minimum fine of $500, and is a Class 4 Felony. A Class 4 Felony may include incarceration for 1-3 years, and fines of up to $25,000.
To see the City of Lake Forest ordinance, click on this link and go to Sec. 4-22 (6).
For the past two summers youth from Lake Forest, Lake Bluff and Knollwood have participated in the Youth to Youth Conference. Groups either attend the Ohio or Rhode Island conference. For more details on the conference check out Youth to Youth website at www.youthtoyouth.net.
The purpose of the conference is to harnessing the powerful influence of peer pressure– making it a positive force that encourages young people to live free of tobacco, alcohol and other drugs.
For more information on the local group going to either conference contact Andy Duran at [email protected]
This link will take you to the website: click here
Thinking about colleges?
You’re checking out academic programs…
You probably already know the mascot…
Do you know about the campus drinking environment?
Thursday, April 3, 2014
12 Noon – 1:30 p.m.
Special Guest Speaker:
Sean Welsh, Assistant Director of Counseling Services and Wellness Coordinator
Lake Forest College
Sean will talk about best practices regarding deterring/reducing underage drinking on college campuses. Opportunity for Q&A at end of presentation.
Lunch is provided!
All meetings are held at:
Lake Forest High School West Campus
300 South Waukegan Road, Seminar Room B
Lake Forest, IL
RSVP to [email protected]